After spending a decade as a couples therapist, I was disturbed by a statistic that says couples take up to six years after problems start to get help. What I knew was six years is too long as these couples came into my office worn out, stressed and struggling.

I found myself thinking, “It doesn’t have to be this way.” I wanted couples, just like you, to get life-changing information years earlier. So, I designed Relationship Reset to give you everything I wish my clients had known before they came to see me.

To Your Love for a Lifetime,

Jen Elmquist

Relationship Reset – The Book



Relationship Reset reveals the secrets to becoming a better couple through exposing valuable information from current research and identifying critical insights that make relating easier. By reading Relationship Reset you will learn:

<h6><strong>The Core Elements</strong></h6>
The Core Elements

Define what’s “normal” for your relationship to experience and how to navigate through the tough spots.

<h6><strong>The Mind Benders</strong></h6>
The Mind Benders

Learn to take personal, thought shifting actions that will change your relationship for the better.

<h6><strong>The Muscle Builders</strong></h6>
The Muscle Builders

Engage in exercises together that will strengthen and stabilize your love for a lifetime.


  • Relationship Reset is a wonderful book that will help you to continue to build a great relationship or to rescue one that is struggling to survive. This book sheds new light on how to instill in your partnership, respect, honesty and trust—the essence of every loving, happy, enduring relationship.

    Stephen M. R. Covey

    The New York Times bestselling author of The Speed of Trust and coauthor of Smart Trust

  • A practical, tactical ‘non-fairy tale’ guide on how to love and live happily ever after.

    Dr. Mark Goulston, M.D.

    Author of Just Listen, Top Book on Listening in the World

  • In marriage, change is key with each day offering life-giving and life-altering reset. With every paragraph of Relationship Reset, I felt I was in the hands of a wise therapist who was expertly guiding me through the changes that vibrant relationships experience every day. This is an important book of wisdom for relationships. I already feel a growing confidence in my marriage because of the model for change unveiled here.

    Ed Bacon

    Rector Emeritus of All Saints Church, guest on Oprah Winfrey's Soul Series, and author of the book, 8 HABITS OF LOVE

  • Where ever you are in your couple relationship, you and your partner will find yourselves reflected in this book! Intimacy, commitment, safety, and fun Can. Be. Cultivated! Backed by decades of personal and professional experience, Relationship Reset is written to be a relate-able guide to revolutionary love and connection. Learn to think like a couples therapist as you read case examples and practice your own relationship reset.

    Samantha J. Zaid, Ph.D. Rev. LMFT

    Director, Marriage and Family Therapy Graduate Program, St. Mary's University of Minnesota

  • With clarity and compassion Jen walks the reader through stories, struggles and strategies to help them reset their relationships. The authenticity of the author is heard through each page and chapter as she provides the reader a model to follow to strengthen their relationship. This book will help many families and become a resource for Marriage and Family therapists everywhere.

    Sara L. Heinzen MA, LMFT

    Clinical Director, Marriage and Family Therapy Graduate Program, St. Mary's University of Minnesota